The Elephant In The Room-Decluttering For Good

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Okay friends…this is a vulnerable subject for me, but it is something I struggle with and I am sure many of you do too.  I grappled with even publishing this post, but I want to hold myself accountable so here it goes!  MY NAME IS MARLEY AND I HAVE TOO MUCH STUFF!

I figured if I write about my ongoing, uncomfortable, anxiety-ridden issue, maybe, just maybe I can get a hold of the elephant in the room;)  I am not a “hoarder” like the TV show per se, but as the years go on I hold on to way more than I need; especially in the home decor department.

My friends have joked that I have a “store” in the storage area of my basement where all my pictures, lamps, vases, holiday decor, dishes etc. reside. I kid you not, it has caused many an argument between my husband and me;) #thestruggleisreal

I love to re-arrange, decorate with the seasons and use my stuff to change things up now and then.  But seriously, do I really need 4 dated candlestick lamps with outdated fringe shades?  NO.  This is what goes on in my head “But the lines are good…I could spray paint it a cute color and change out the shade…….” you get the point. Need I go on?

Don’t get me wrong, I have re-purposed some things, but for the most part….not that much.  The reality is, as my style evolves,  I need to realize that (barring a few good traditional pieces) I just don’t need 15 lamps taking up space on my shelves.  Clutter around my home=clutter in my head=me not using my time wisely=strained relationships=not keeping a tidy home=stress=anxiety=unhealthy habits#ain’tnobodygottimeforthat! Ha!

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I am a Creative, period.  I enjoy creating, dreaming and scheming my next project.  But, all of those ideas swirling around my noggin leave me paralyzed.  I don’t have the time or energy to see them through, because I am just trying to keep up with the day to day. This leads to a very unhappy Creative (me).  I need a creative outlet and I am not fulfilling my desire to create because of the disorganization.

You get it, the tidying up, laundry, the never-ending editing of the closets all over the house, kitchen drawers, chest of drawers in the family room, foyer…on and on and on…. And, I haven’t even discussed what my husband deems as “the dumping ground” aka his office(he works out of the home) #blesshisheart #notfair#hehastomakealiving #nextonmylist. That’s a whole other post for another day.

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Some people are Type “A” and organization comes naturally to them, but I am not one of them and I needed help. So, last year I picked up this little book and started reading it. Have  you seen it?  It is all over the world-wide web. Well…..the light bulbs in my head were going off left and right.  Aha moment after Aha moment….I finally got “IT”

Truth be told, I started with my bedroom closet and even IG’ed about it.  Man alive it felt soo good!  I tidied and Kondofied my drawers…I even folded my socks in neat little origami-like packages.  I was on a roll….then I stopped and frankly I didn’t “Kondofy” correctly. Life, stressors, schedules, emotions….you name it…#roadblock.

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Believe it or not all the spaces in my bedroom that I “Kondofied” stayed organized after a year!  That is when I realized that this cute, petite, genius of a lady knew something I didn’t. Furthermore, it was a doable, worthwhile endeavor I was willing to partake in….again;)

So, this is the year my friends….I am finally ridding myself of the STUFF!!! I could go on a diatribe and a psychiatrist would probably have a field day psychoanalyzing me and my “stuff”, aka the clutter etc. (we all know that it is tied into our emotional baggage don’t we?) but I digress.  All I know is that it is out of control and causes more strife and conflict in my home and relationships than I am comfortable admitting.

What I know for sure (thanks Oprah;) is that when I have de-cluttered or organized in the past, everything starts to fall into place. My home, my relationships, my self-image and confidence.  I just “feel” better.  Can I hear an Amen?  It is all tied together my friends!

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It is going to take some time.  Ms. Kondo states in her book, you have to start by “category” of things, not room by room #guiltyascharged#whenwillieverlearntofollowdirections;) It could take up to 6 months or more. The thought is once you really “Kondofy” tidying will be more manageable.

So there you have it!  I am Marley and have TOO MUCH STUFF! And, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!(Phew!  That’s off my chest, and it is in print and real so I must follow through)!

Are you with me? If you struggle as I do, I understand. Don’t get down on yourself.  Just because we are challenged with organization, does not mean we are weak or “less than”.  I have realized we are each unique and cannot be good at everything!  That’s what makes us “us”.

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We are all in this together, and hopefully can see each other through;)  One day at a time….one item at a time…. I know it will be worth it in the end, and frankly, my mind could use a little more space to breathe and create…..which, come to think of it, will make fabulous blog posts;)!!!!  Now go and de-clutter and tackle that “elephant in the room;)” !

Have a great day friends!

~Marley~

 

 

 

1 Comment

  1. Kristen Lenhardt
    February 18, 2016 / 12:38 pm

    I can’t wait to hear about your progress! Please keep us updated. I want to see before and after pictures! You can do this!

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